Struggling with chemsex or experiencing fear of relapse around sex love & intimacy?
Is there a part of your program that feels undiscovered around your unique sexual needs and desires?
What if there were another perspective?
Finding a way to move through the world of connecting with other like-minded men can be challenging and often times dangerous.
Have you felt confused, judged or does your sexual ideal feel out of place in your recovery community?
What if traditional methods often suggested in sober environments don't work for everyone?
Is there a larger conversation to be had around sexual abstinence messaging?
What does it look like to develop new tools that allow Queer, Bi, Gay and /or Trans identifying men to experience sexual wellness in ways that are empowering and shame free?
This is the work I love to do and have been doing for over 20 years. Much of what I share in my practice comes from my personal experiences and many years of working with men in and out of recovery. I also draw inspiration from the groundbreaking book, "Conscious Recovery"™ by TJ Woodword. If you're ready to explore your inner sexy and make empowering changes in your sex life and journey towards essential wholeness, I invite you to join me.
Let's navigate the root causes of shame-based imprints and apply practical guidance towards shifting the narrative from brokenness to remembering your wholeness.
Together we explore and learn to:
Bring shame into the light as an empowering tool towards freedom, without having to re-open the wound over and over again.
Learn to witness the parts of yourself that you may have exiled, shut down, or stuffed away.
Overcome obstacles or challenges that have been holding you back and blocking you from truly being who you are in the bedroom, in your relationships, and in your sobriety.
Explore living beyond the beliefs and ideas that keep reminding us of not-enoughness and return to a sense of sexual well-being.
Have valuable tools to trace the root causes beneath the behaviors and obstacles that keep you stuck.
Unlearn core false beliefs and ideas passed down to you about yourself,your sexuality and your desires.
Integrate and witness all of our emotions and learn to navigate our judgements beyond the ideas of good, bad, right and wrong.
David Wichman is an award-winning author, speaker, Certified Recovery Specialist, and Certified Conscious Recovery Coach with a focus on sexual freedom, recovery, and well-being. A former sex worker of 18 years, he brings extensive lived and professional experience working with marginalized populations and individuals navigating trauma, addiction, and complex life experiences from all walks of life.
David is trained and certified through CCAR and CalMHSA as a California Peer Support Specialist, and he completed his Conscious Recovery certification in 2022. He has been active in the LGBTQIA+ recovery community for over 20 years, integrating principles that support inquiry, awareness, and a more inclusive approach to recovery that includes sexual well-being.
His memoir, Every Grain of Sand, earned numerous accolades, including the 2024 American Legacy Book Award in LGBTQ+ Nonfiction, establishing his voice within the LGBTQ+ community. His latest book, The Four Rooms: An InQueery on Sexual Freedom and Well-being, invites readers to uncover parts of themselves often shaped by shame and societal conditioning, creating space for deeper connection and understanding.
David feels a strong calling to work with queer, gay, bi, and trans-identified men navigating sober sex and intimacy. His approach is grounded in presence and curiosity, offering a space where all aspects of a person can be welcomed and explored.